Relationships!

There comes a time when you have no time for your personal self and you want to be off getting close to people not because you no longer have emotions but because you don't want to remain vulnerable and get hurt. Perceptions and realities are different, people can assume whatever they want to. You cant be explaining yourself to people who don't matter. Everyone can't be part of your life and vice versa. There are people who want to break a relationship in an instant and there are people who are mature enough to always make a relationship work even when the other person is hell bent on behaving small or breaks the ties on the drop of a hat out of own whims and fancies. Relationships maintenance is totally your choice. Lesser the number of people in your personal circle better it is for your individuality, after all you have to save not only your time, energy and aura but also save yourself from your own self as more than outside world you affect yourself with your own thoughts, feelings and imagination!

Emotional sensiblities

Emotional sensibilities!

There comes a time in life when there is just no scope for any emotional attachments. Even the emotional attachment you have had may become null and void in a moment. To get close to people is not everyone’s cup of tea. It may be not the best situation to have no friends or social circle but for some individuals that is the only condition to keep sanity especially when they do everything with their heart. When there are minimum attachments and minimum emotional commitments you can focus on your career although you may miss out on growing up in certain areas. When you trust you simply trust and trusting has no conditions but when someone lets you down because you trusted more than that someone deserved it hurts. But then when high expectations are raised people do change and with goodness the effect does rub off. The catch is to focus on the positives and not negative aspects. Experience hate but only temporarily and translate the energy into constructive energy. Your energy is you and life is all about loving yourself first. If you love yourself than only you can be a potential friend or lover and there is just no limit for friendship, love and all matters of the heart and nothing is right or wrong. It’s foolish to expect everyone to understand your level of maturity and emotions. You just can’t forget that people have limited microscopic thought process, mediocre emotional understanding and baseless logics which can’t change. You may have abundance of love but receivers may have small reception powers.  People may prick your ego on the drop of a pin but then still you can be perfectly fine and pamper yourself with self-love. No one is indispensable in your life and vice versa and nothing changes much just because some people are no longer part of your life or some relationships which meant the world break in a moment or when the dust on the glass of relationships is cleared and clarity surfaces. Relationships are just a part of life and not LIFE. If you gave over importance it’s your foolishness and not of anyone else.  LIFE eventually is all about your own equation with yourself and your maturity to deal with people and relationships following your heart and still being unapologetic about it”

Goodness hurts!

.When your goodness is insulted just because you allowed a person in your vicinity it really hurts. It takes a lot of self-control to not to over react even when you feel the desire to hit back the person in question. Small people will remain small forever no matter what just like you can never convert thorns into flowers. When your expectation and judgement was wrong only you are to be blamed and no one else. If you let the other person become the cause of your misery it's your problem, the other person will have sound sleep any which ways. You have to consciously choose to keep mediocre people at bay because if you don't they will take advantage of your goodness and sooner or later run you down. It takes a lot of guts to stay indifferent to the cause of misery even though you may sulk and suffer alone which is as natural as a sunrise. It is ironical but true that you can't change your roots, heart, way of getting affected by everyone and everything but at least after numerous disappointments you can at least control your words, attitude and behaviour pattern and tell yourself that what goes up comes down and people who do wrong by choice in full consciousness may be riding on the success and glory today but eventually won't be successful forever. LIFE settles scores eventually even before human beings do!

Express love!

When you realize you took someone you loved but hardly expressed for granted, when you realize you caused permanent damage to someone who deserved only love it hurts! You can't undo the damage done over the years in words and actions but still corrective behaviour can make you feel at peace. Love is something which need to be nurtured and not something which you never took out time for. Love and friendships does wonders to people making them live a life of meaning. Sometimes you need to express your feelings and emotions not just because it may make you feel good but because it may make others feel freshness of life. For you love may be just a part of your life but for others it may mean everything. When what you want doesn't happen you feel pain so just imagine the pain of the person who thought your time and affection is the motivation of the day and you chose to ignore totally. Love and relationships need a piece of your heart so just express don't suppress!

Human Love acceptance!

Human love gives freshness to life. Love in any form should be accepted and encouraged. A smile from a gym buddy, a compliment from a stranger, fatherly love from a father figure, words of encouragement for what you like, an assurance for your being talented, being told you are the best when you are not in a good mood, standing by you without being judgemental, understanding your silence and words, trusting you even when you don't deserve, raising your expectations and enabling you to live upto them are all small things but make a big difference. We spend 80 percent of our time with 20 percent of the same people every week be it personal or professional life so we should choose people carefully where we can. Human love when you give or get you become better & young and it gives magnetic appeal to your personality and aura. When you value love in your life it changes you, your environment, the people who come in contact with you and optimism becomes a way of life. Life and relationships are all about understanding your own feelings & emotions and following your heart at all times!

Understanding the necessity

When your love and affection is not understood you can't feel disappointed rather you can only sympathise with the people who actually never understood you. Assuming to understand and understanding are two separate things. You have to take everything in your stride when your own feelings and emotions become a let down.....Your own peace of mind is important and when you get a fresh inspiration who sets on fire the storm inside you it does make a difference. At some point of time in your life (when it is least expected) someone may show you a new perspective in everything just by sheer grace, aura, maturity and words effortlessly and make an impact on your life that you no longer remain the same. To learn and absorb something extra ordinary from every person you come across is a fine art and sometimes the impact is so huge that it changes your mind, heart, lifestyle and perspective giving you the right direction!

Human Love

Human love can rejuvenate unlimited feelings and emotions. Everyone is very sentimental in nature but everyone is not expressive and understanding. When you love someone you love, there are no if's and but's and when suddenly someone expresses what value you have in his or her life and acknowledges your affection and make confessions when it was not anticipated or expected it really leaves you speechless. Love is inside in everyone in abundance. Not being expressive and demonstrative doesn't mean there is no love in fact people who don't verbalize everything speak volumes of love in their expression and attitude and it is their biggest strength and a secret of staying positive and maintaining maturity!

Heart care

When you become the cause of someone’s pain unnecessarily or when you lose self- control because of your work madness it’s just not right and you get damaged more than the person you damaged. Everyone’s heart is important and needs to be taken care of with love just like you take care of your own heart. You have no right to attack a person emotionally especially when you knew you have to be responsible and the mature one. Pain, regrets and guilt have no boundaries or limitations. Emotional attachments one day may mean absolute waste of time and make you realize that living on emotions was a sheer wrong happening of your life and it may become tough to get on terms with yourself and silence and indifference also may refuse to become your companion and yet you are supposed to live as if nothing has happened after all the show must go on. You and only you have to adjust to everything taking everything in your stride and life is either now or never as there is nothing worse than getting a feeling of having wasted yourself beyond tolerance!

Insight into heart!
When your love and affection is not understood you can't feel disappointed rather you can only sympathize with the people who actually never understood you. Assuming to understand and understanding are two separate things. You have to take everything in your stride when your own feelings and emotions become a let down.....Your own peace of mind is important and when you get a fresh inspiration who sets on fire the storm inside you it does make a difference. At some point of time in your life (when it is least expected) someone may show you a new perspective in everything just by sheer grace, aura, maturity and words effortlessly and make an impact on your life that you no longer remain the same. To learn and absorb something extra ordinary from every person you come across is a fine art and sometimes the impact is so huge that it changes your mind, heart, lifestyle and perspective giving you the right direction!

Pain is as real as day and night!

Pain is part of life and is as common as having a dent in the car. There is nothing to overreact or magnify about pain. Dissecting or postmortem of the cause or source of pain is immaterial. People are mere coincidences, the cause of pain is your own imagination, reaction and your own sentiments. Suffering doesn't make anyone feel great but if you can transform it and stop complaining it makes life better. Accepting pain as it is raw and uncensored is better than denying it. Mental emotional wounds have advantage over physical wounds as the owner can hide them successfully from whosoever  he wants to. Everyone's life is an open book but it depends upon the individual as how many pages he or she wants you to read. No one is interested in others life unless its really a matter of the heart as everyone is chasing their own desires, dreams and goals and that leaves no scope for any relationships. People who carry their heart like a medal get injured quickly but still they don't change their nature, habit or behaviour pattern. Pain is as real as day and night. Very few learn from pain and those who learn surely understand pain of others and their compassion gets healing qualities automatically! 

Friendship is all about emotions and illusions!

Friendship is an intimate matter. It’s not necessary or compulsory to have friends. One can spend a life time with right close acquaintances and work related people too. First of all most important is your own friendship with you. There has to be individuality first. Friendship is also an invitation to heart break as people don’t understand the way you should be understood. People who let you down are the people who are closest to you so what is the need to be close beyond a point. Too much of happiness and peace is intolerable.  Emotions are hardly valued and it’s hilarious that some people think love and friendship can also be bought. Feelings and emotions can make or break you. In the long run a person who has feelings and emotions in abundance suffers the most as on the drop of a hat one suffers in silence. What may be a small or insignificant thing for everyone may mean everything to an emotional person. An emotional person‘s microscope is different and he knows to be above right wrong, good and bad because heart means the world and there is just no logic in love and friendship. What everyone will consider trivial and forget he would remember and damages done are damages done forever. A sensitive person suffers not only when he is wrong but also when he is right that is the irony of his life.  Friendship is an illusion in direct proportion of your thoughts, feelings and emotions, earlier you understand that better it is for you. It becomes difficult to tolerate yourself at times. What friendship day the world talks about when in regular relationships too people lie as conveniently as drinking water.  Friendship is an illusion and everyone sulks and not everyone has the guts to accept one’s sensitiveness.  It takes lot of gut to accept your failures with a smile and  everyone  can’t understand the pleasure of putting everything at stake  and people will never understand that sometimes pain is the only pleasure you have in life.  Even without experience one can surely understand it just like you don’t need to taste poison to know that it kills. If just by basic experiences and imagination one can feel such strong emotions what he would do if he lets his heart rule can you even imagine?